I was given a lovely nature card for the holidays by a friend, entitled, Advice from a Glacier, created by Your True Nature company.
As my contribution to your peaceful and productive New Year, I’m passing along some glacial beauty, above, from Humantay Lake, Peru
(photographer: willian-justen-de-vasconcellos. On unsplash.com)…
and some glacial wisdom from my card:
I could just leave it at that, because each one is such great life wisdom, as is. But I just can’t resist tying it all into some of my favorite life changing Empathic Communication principles and skills.
Carve your own path.
Choose a new paradigm of speech, thought and relating. Yes it will feel foreign at first.
The Empathic Communication paradigm helps us drop away the disconnecting habits most of us have learned, passed down to us for thousands of years by our core institutions – governments, schools, religions, families, media, etc.
Like criticizing, blaming, threatening, demanding, and “deserve thinking”.
Instead try using the 4 R’s of Reconnection:
Respecting – others and self, knowing we all behave as we do in order to meet our common basic needs.
Responsibility taking – for our own actions, beliefs, feelings, assumptions, thoughts and needs!
Requesting – only wanting a “yes” if it is heart felt.
Remembering – that we are all interdependent and our well being is connected to everyone’s well being…even when you are really mad:)
This is especially important for advancing your EQ, or Emotional Intelligence. We spend most of our time racing at our “brain’s pace”. Yet to genuinely, emotionally tune into self and other, we must s-l-o-wwww down to, tick, tick, tick, “heart pace” and actually feel those feelings. Once you figure this one out it feels quite good. Natural. Right.
Channel your strengths.
Your strength comes from a clear mind and an open heart.
Clear Mind. Develop feeling and needs literacy – a path to clarity and understanding about why you and others do what you do all day long, and how to inspire new compassionate and resourceful choices to conflict areas.
Open Heart. Master the art of giving and receiving genuine empathy – a key ingredient to peace of mind, more love, meaningful presence with others, and deep, lasting human connections. There is no substitute for this kind of social wealth for your health and happiness.
Smooth the way for others.
Leadership and Culture Building. Yes, take the lead, with powerful Emotional Intelligence leadership skills, at work and at home. Create teams where people feel safe, cared about, and enjoy working and living together. With Empathic Communication training you’ve got The Map and know how to use it – a simple, reliable map through the otherwise complex and confusing terrain of human emotions and needs!
Keep moving forward.
You’ll find you really want to keep moving forward when you get all the positive feedback that comes from offering yourself and others genuine empathy, and when you are inspired to figure out how to get your core needs met every day and help others do the same.
Oh yes, oh yes! When you start to feel the heat, press that button: “Pause and Promise to Return”.
That’s the inevitable happy outcome of all of this:)
Peace and many blessings for the new year,
P.S. I’m offering convenient, fun and economical programs for acquiring everything these glaciers are trying to tell us about.
Family Communication Magic and Couple’s Communication Magic.
These are 8 week online video workshops with other like minded lovelies. You can set up a complimentary session with me here if you want more info – Breakthrough Conversation.
Catherine Cooley is a mediator and a communication coach. She has worked in environments of extreme conflict including prisons, the court system and local communities teaching what she calls "Breakthrough Conversations." She specializes in helping people foster clear, respectful, warm, cooperative relationships at home and in the workplace.
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